During an exchange with an east coast friend about my most recent CrossCurrents post on agape-love, he referenced a beautiful contemplative reflection which can be found on the grounds of the National Shrine of the North American Martyrs in upstate New York, “There is a withholding that doesn’t enrich and a giving that doesn’t impoverish.” I begin with this quote because it so eloquently elucidates the delicacy of a second type of love, philautia (fee-lah-TEE-ah), which I wi
